Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

By Margalis Fjelstad
People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling—in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don’t happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member.Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretaker’s self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker’s how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle—with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions.

Welcome to the world of personality disorders. It’s a complex realm where relationships become battlegrounds, where emotions run wild, and where the lines between reality and fiction blur. In this harsh landscape, individuals with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders wreak havoc on the lives of those closest to them. If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a toxic relationship with a borderline or narcissist, help is at hand.

The Book: Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist

Margalis Fjelstad, a licensed marriage and family therapist, delves deep into the nuances of these destructive relationships, offering a lifeline to those who feel stuck in a maelstrom of chaos. In her book, “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist,” Fjelstad provides a compassionate and insightful guide for individuals seeking to break free from the relentless cycle of caretaking.

Published by Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, this essential resource equips readers with the tools and understanding necessary to navigate the treacherous waters of relationships with personality-disordered individuals. With its 1.8.2013 edition, this book has already helped countless individuals transform their lives.

The World of Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

While individuals with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders may appear normal and functional in public, it is in their intimate relationships where their true nature emerges. They can become emotionally aggressive, controlling, demeaning, and even paranoid towards their loved ones. Fjelstad sheds light on the destructive behaviors that define these personality disorders and explores their profound impact on personal dimensions such as self-esteem, thinking processes, and relationships.

Fjelstad explains how caretakers, often family members, find themselves entangled in a web of victimhood, persecution, and rescue. This rigid dynamic cripples their self-worth and complicates their journey towards a healthier life.

Escaping the Caretaker Role

This book is not only an exploration of the intricate dynamics of caretaker relationships but also a guide on how to escape the clutches of these toxic patterns. Fjelstad outlines the expectations and rules that underlie these relationships, empowering caretakers to break free from their codependency. Whether individuals choose to remain in the relationship or move on, this book provides actionable steps to reclaim their lives.

With an empathetic yet realistic approach, “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist” explores the self-destructive nature of these relationships. Through real-life examples, Fjelstad illustrates how individuals have liberated themselves from the confines of caretaker behavior, finding creative and effective solutions.

Order Your Copy Today

If you find yourself nodding in recognition, feeling the weight of these destructive relationships on your shoulders, it’s time for a change. “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist” offers a path to freedom and self-discovery. With its 190 pages packed with insights and practical strategies, this book serves as a roadmap to a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle.

Don’t let the chains of a toxic relationship hold you back any longer. Embrace this opportunity to break free, to rediscover yourself, and to heal. Order your copy of “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist” today and take the first empowered step towards a brighter future.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; 1.8.2013 edition (February 7, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • Format: eBook Digital
  • Pages: 190
  • ISBN-10: 144222018X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1442220188

Product Details

  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; 1.8.2013 edition (February 7, 2013)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 190 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 144222018X
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1442220188

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